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How To Get Over a Breakup

If you read my post about being broken hearted you’ll have an insight into how I felt, and I won’t lie, there are still sad, depressed, or heartbroken moments – whatever you wanna call it. And I’m human, it’s a daily choice not to stay there though. The image of the woman sitting in her robe, eating ice cream, with mascara running down her face – DON’T let that be you (for long) in a breakup.

Breakups are devastating, I’ve been there, I’ve watched my whole world fall apart in front of my eyes, and then watched them walk out the door. No matter what kind of break up you’ve been in they’re hard – one-sided, mutual, clean break, messy, long & dragged out, they are all traumatic. But! I’m alive, I didn’t die, the world went on, & you can too. Here’s how to get over a breakup:

Recognize that you have to grieve that person

I thought this was crazy, honestly. But it was so true – this person was dead. Yes, not literally. But in a sense. You’re going to cry, you’re going to be angry, you’re going to be in denial, you’re going to bargain with your head, and all of that is okay/normal. In a breakup, we’re not just losing the person, but we’re also losing our idea of the future we planned with that person, and maybe you’re losing their family, and you’ll probably lose a few mutual friends. Something that you have (or I had/have) to remind myself is that: you are worth it, you’re worth giving and receiving love, and you are enough.

Go through all the reasons why your life is better now

And yes, we all know there are reasons. You don’t have to deal with _____. You don’t have to be up all night with snoring, or their bad habits, or whatever it may be. You get to drive your life now, and there’s no one in the passenger seat to bring you down or take over the steering wheel. The most important aspect of this is that you need to go back to feeling not only good but confident, about yourself. He didn’t see the good in you, and that’s his loss. Welcome back, self.

Don’t go through every single detail of your relationship

Which can be so hard not to do especially if you didn’t want it to end or if you are confused as to why/how but you are only torturing yourself because focusing on the “what-if’s” doesn’t change this present moment. If someone is not willing to reciprocate our investment in them, we must take this as a blessing in disguise. And remember that we are not responsible for their actions/immature behavior.

No social media stalking

I was SO bad at this, and sure for the first few times I didn’t care, but then moments later – it would all hit me. Trust me, ignorance is 100% bliss. You won’t have to see that they’re out at a bar, out with someone new. Whatever it may be the case that they’re doing – CLOSE THE DOOR. And as hard as it is to come to terms, they don’t matter. What they do, doesn’t matter.

You have to make the choice to put one foot in front of the other

I focused on segments at a time, I couldn’t think about the future at all, because I’d go down a rabbit hole that I couldn’t get out of. My day was, wake up do my morning routine, get to work, do work, do my nightly routine. And do that every day. Nothing else.

Understand that it will come in waves

But let it happen. I literally thought I was bipolar, I was worried about myself. Because I would be totally fine, and the next moment, be hysterical. HYSTERICAL. But I think it’s because your brain is processing through every single thing and working through the harder times.

Rely on your support system

They were probably your support system before him, throughout this whole relationship, and they’ll be there through this. Most of us have all been through a hard breakup in our lives. We’re not alone in how we’re feeling and it’s important to work through it with people you love. **shout out to all my loves for answering my millions of sobbing calls at every hour of every day***

And most of all, don’t forget to breathe and always remember you will get through this.

~ XOXO, the stronger every day, Amanda

NOURISH

Your Guide to Cheese & Wine Pairing

Wine and cheese are two of life’s greatest pleasures and they just so happen to be two of my favorite things. Finding the perfect wine and cheese pairings is something I love to do, With every new cheese I try, I always think to myself, which wine would be perfect with it. Or vice versa. There’s so much to take into consideration with wine and cheese pairings, like texture, acidity, and tannin. I am a firm believer in that both are delicious on their own, but when paired perfectly, magic can happen. This leads us to the million dollar question:

Which Wines Pair Best With What Cheeses?

If I had my pick, I’d more often than not pick a red wine. I used to only drink Moscato in my early days which makes me cringe now. But my palette has been refined (THANK GOD) and now I can appreciate a nice rosé, or sauvignon blanc on a warm summer day.

Merlot & Garlic & Herb Cheeses

Merlot is a medium – full bodied red, typically with hints of plum, black cherry, and black tea. It pairs perfectly with the flavors from this spreadable cheese (like pictured). Since Merlot is a dry and fruity wine, blending it with this tangy flavorful cheese will give the wine the perfect combination of sweet and savory that we all know and love. The cheese will also help bright out the fruity flavors in the wine.

Sauvignon Blanc & Feta

This light bodied and dry wine gives off hints of citrus & grass which makes it perfect for feta’s soft and fresh taste. Since sauvignon blanc is light and feta is soft, neither flavor will over power each other. You’ll love how these both subtle yet complementary flavors go hand in hand perfectly.

Cabernet Franc & Brie

“Cab Franc” as everyone likes to call it, is a medium – dry wine  where you get flavors of raspberry, bramble, and sometimes even bell pepper.  Brie is soft and creamy, and one of my favorites. Brie is very creamy and buttery which compliments this wine’s savory flavors.

Crisp Dry Rosé & Goat

This light – medium bodied, and dry rosé often with splashes of raspberry and cherry and goat cheeses are very subtle in flavor, it needs a subtle wine so the flavor doesn’t get overwhelmed. Since you’re getting that crisp finish with this wine, the goat cheese will go along with the soft and ripe sip that the wine brings. Think of a perfect summer picnic with a rosé and goat cheese. I am also a big fan of sauvignon blanc with goat cheese if you aren’t a rosé fan.

Riesling & Blue

Riesling is often light and dry with subtle peach and other stone fruits in flavor. People oftentimes stray away from stinky cheese like blue when wine pairing, but these two are perfect. When you pair blue with a sweeter wine like the riesling, it will help balance out that “funk” and give you a more mellow and sweet taste with the cheese. These stinky cheeses give both a unique texture and flavor so don’t leave them out.

Pinot Noir & Comté

This pinot is a light – medium bodied wine with a dry taste, giving off earthy tones and ripe red fruits which pairs great with this cheese because it’s a nutty cheese with medium firmness. Comté can give off hazelnut and brown butter. Neither of these have a robust flavor which lets the flavors from each come out.

The Best Wine and Cheese Pairings

What I’ve learned is – don’t be afraid to experiment or get creative with your pairings! With wine and cheese pairings balance is the key. You want to be able to taste both the wine and cheese and let them compliment each other vs. one 100% being overpowering. If you want to learn more about how to build the perfect cheese board, read my blog post!

Did I leave out a good pairing that you love? Let me know!

~ XOXO, the wine lovin’, Amanda

Two girls at Disneyland in California
ADVENTURE

Tips for the Best Disneyland Experience

Let’s just start off by saying that Disneyland isn’t known as “Happiest Place on Earth” for no reason. I grew up with fantastic memories of Disneyland and while as I got older I didn’t go as much as I used to, it’s safe to say that every time I go I leave with a smile from ear to ear. Here’s how to make the most of your time at both Disneyland and California Adventure Park.

California Adventure & Disneyland

While Disneyland is known as the iconic park, I love them both equally. California Adventure park was my first upside down roller coaster and their rides are more geared towards adults. Disneyland has more rides and it covers a larger layout. Disneyland is comprised of Disneyland, California Adventure Park, Downtown Disney, and between the parks, they have 3 hotels. Between the two parks, there are 16 themed lands, over 90 rides, and over 90 places to dine. This goes without saying, but I would recommend spending more than one day here, especially for a first-time visit.

Balloons at Disneyland

Tips & Tricks for a Magical Trip to Disneyland

  • Buy Tickets in Advance. Whether that be online or at a third-party office, this way you’re not wasting the day at ticket booths and can jump straight into the park. I’d recommend getting a hopper pass this way you can jump between both parks and you don’t have to spend all day at a certain park.
  • Spend time at both parks. Disneyland which opened in 1955 is your typical Disney experience from It’s a Small World to Dumbo to Pirates of the Caribbean to every princess. While California Adventure is more related to the Disney-Pixar side of things like Frozen, Monsters Inc, Cars, Etc.
  • They don’t sell alcohol at Disneyland. I used to love going to Cove Bar and Ariel’s Grotto for drinks, watching the roller coaster, and having a few apps. They’ve now closed it and it’s now Lamplight Lounge ~ stay tuned on the verdict with that restaurant. 
  • Plan your Disney trip not during peak times. Disneyland is busy from locals to people visiting from every part of the world. It’s best to avoid going during “peak” times like summer, any spring breaks, or Christmas vacation to beat the crowds and long lines.
  • Don’t forget about the FastPass. You can get one free FastPass at a time. This way you can plan out the rides with the longest wait time and plan to go back later.
  • Stay at a Disneyland Hotel. This may seem over the top, but you can cut down on transportation time, have very easy access in and out of the parks, and can go drop off or rest (which you will want to do).
  • Use the Disneyland App. This will give you an interactive map of the park and let you better plan out your day. The app will give you estimated wait time for rides, let you know the estimated FastPass return time and where the characters that are out in the park are. I’d recommend bringing a portable charger for your phone, especially if you’re planning on using the app at all.
  • Make a plan. Since wait lines can get long, the park can get crowded, or who knows what else, make sure you have a plan on your “must-do’s” or “must-see’s” so those don’t get missed out on.
  • Don’t forget to buy your ears! This is a staple for everyone visiting the park, no matter the age. They will magically fit on everyone and make you feel like a little kid again.

Here’s you have it, the best time at both Disneyland & California Adventure! Now all you need is faith, trust, and a little bit of pixie dust.

~ XOXO, the Disney Lovin’, Amanda

A picture of in n out food
NOURISH

What You Need to Know About the Secret Menu at In-N-Out

If you’ve visited Southern California or the west coast, chances are people have told you that In-N-Out is a must try. And I couldn’t agree more. It’s not hyped or overrated, it’s a necessity. In-N-Out is slowly but surely moving East & I can’t wait for the dream that one opens up in Boston (I can dream, right?).

In-n-out menu at the drive thru

The Normal In-N-Out Menu

They have their basics of hamburgers, cheeseburgers, french fries, drinks, and milkshakes. Every burger comes with fresh lettuce, tomatoes, raw onions, their famous sauce and of course a toasted bun. Listed on their menu is a “double-double” which is your typical burger just with two patties, I thought it was a little self-explanatory, but you can never be too careful with the newbies. That’s the easy stuff, now we get to the good stuff.

In-N-Out Secret Menu

A Neapolitan milkshake at in n out

Maybe it’s not so secret to everyone anymore, it’s easily accessible online. But here’s an insider look at the menu.  

  • Animal Style: your delicious burger with lettuce, pickles, tomatoes, extra spread, and grilled onions. FYI: You can have any burger made animal style.
  • Animal Style Fries: fries with cheese, spread, and grilled onions.
  • Double/Triple Meat: number of meat patties without any cheese.
  • Protein Style: instead of a bun, your burger is wrapped in lettuce. Any burger can be made this way.
  • X by Y: X = meat patties with Y = number of cheese slices. For example, you could say a 3 x 3 or a 4 x 3.
  • Flying Dutchman: two meat patties with two slices of cheese. Nothing else.
  • Grilled Cheese: buns with two slices of cheese, toasted of course.
  • Neopolitan Shake: your typical strawberry, chocolate, and vanilla shake for when you can’t decide which flavor to get. You can also pick and choose any combination of them.
  • Cheese Fries: fries that are loaded with cheese.
  • Root Beer Float: your classic root beer float. You get a root beer soda with vanilla ice cream.

My go to order? Protein style, animal style, with fries and a Neopolitan shake. I am drooling just thinking about it! Enjoy your meal at In-N-Out, as if I needed to actually tell you that.

Animal Style everything from the in n out secret menu

~ XOXO, the animal style lovin’, Amanda