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FUR BABY: GATSBY

How Not To Forget About Your Fur Baby On Valentine’s Day

February is all talks about love. Whether you’re dodging it and celebrating “gal-entines day” or celebrating it with your one and only. If you know me, I have to include Gatsby in everything as well. Here’s some ways to show your fur baby some extra love + to make them feel included in the love fest all month long.

Talk to them. Some people may say I’m crazy for this, but I don’t care. I’m known for my “Gatsby voice” and I talk to Gatsby all the time. I know he likes it, and can understand because his ears will purk up, or he’ll open his eyes. We all know, dogs are pretty much human, and 100% apart of the family.

Play with them. Grab their toys and have a tug-a-war marathon, chase them around the house like a crazy person, play fetch, and watch their tail go wild.

Teach them a new trick. They think it’s fun, we think it’s fun, and it always stimulates their mind. Working your fur baby’s mind is SO important because it wears them out and let’s you create a special bond with each other.

Brush them, and make them handsome/pretty. Letting them know that you care about their hygiene is a simple way, you’ll often see them licking their paws. By you brushing them, it keeps them healthier longer, as well as I know Gatsby always thanks me by licking my hands after I’m done brushing him.

Go on an adventure. Time spent with them goes a long way. Maybe your pup loves hiking, going to the park, running on the beach. Make an effort to take them with you, even just one time. And you’ll be able to tell how happy they are!

Show them extra affection. The kisses, the belly rubs, the cuddles, the hugs. Every dog is different? What does yours like? Take that and run. Maybe yours doesn’t like to be cuddled but loves belly rubs! That’s fine, they’re just like us- and every fur baby is different.

If you think about it, we’re all they have. Our time. Our energy. Our effort. Our love. While we have work, friends, our loves, our hobbies, activities + THEM! We need to make it known to them that we love them just as much as they love us.

Gatsby is the neediest dog ever, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. He wants to be by my side at all times, and even better for him if I’m talking or petting him. If you have other ways to show your fur baby a little extra love- I’m always up for new ideas, and trust me, Gatsby is too.

~ XOXO, Amanda & the needy boy Gatsby

LIFE, ETC.

6 Simple Ways To Appreciate Your Relationship

Dating in your 20s is hard. There’s always this cliche (way too perfect) vision we have in our minds- from the Disney princess movies we grew up watching, to the never ending rom-coms where it always works out in the end.

When it comes down to it, if we’re being honest, we’re all chasing our happily ever after, we’re ingrained from day 1 that there’s prince charming out there, and it will all be perfect and easy. But when it comes down to it, it’s never easy, and there’s not a rulebook how to have a perfect relationship. So here’s how I think you can make yours (more) perfect, how you can make it into your daily routine, and my two cents on why I’m continually choosing my relationship (Sorry to put you on blast, Danny!)

The little things matter. Like them pouring you a cup of coffee when they pour theirs. Small acts of kindness, like this show more. I think people can feel unappreciated or unattended to, and take advantage of each other’s presence- especially after the “honeymoon stage” is over. This proves to them that you are thinking about them while you are thinking about yourself, which sets the tone for being selfless and keeping each other’s best interest at heart.

Use manners. I know sometimes (hi, me!!) are guilty of not doing this, but you should never be too comfortable to say please and thank you. Your tone and wording depicts how your messages are received. Say out loud, “get me a glass of water,” did that sound good? Now try saying, “Can you please get me a glass of water?” Sounds so different, and will make them more willing to want to do things for you, if they’re feeling appreciated and respected.

Take XOXO literally. It sounds weird, but makes total sense. I know after a long day if I get a kiss, it’s great. But if I get a hug, a real all encompassing, hug that it makes me feel better, with a kiss on top. A simple arm around each other while watching TV, a hand hold in the car, even a butt squeeze while walking by. It all plays such a major part in feeling wanted and like your partner is attracted to you.

Send love notes. Whether this be as simple as a random “I love you” text, a post it note in their lunch saying “have a good day!” When relationships fall into a routine, I feel that’s where everything negative starts. Doing this- out of the blue- creates a distraction from the day, letting your mind go to them in a positive manner instead of your typical daily work environment.

Don’t sit on your phone. This doesn’t mean don’t go on IG, text, or seclude yourself from society. But we all have seen those couples who go to dinner, or meet for happy hour, and one is on their phone majority of the time. Does the other look happy? No. They look miserable, probably thinking “why am I even here?” It lets you connect in the moment. Fully embrace and take in each other.

Find things you both enjoy. I know we both love eating (LOLing at my total fatty self). So when things get tough, when they get hard, I know I can send a recipe to try and make, or bring up a new place to eat to try, and that we have built that common ground on. It’s an easy subject to talk about, “did you see that new place that popped up around the corner? Let’s go try it!” Or shoot him a delicious looking recipe with “Dinner plans?” It’s fun and flirty, and if it gets really hard, it’s easy to take a breath and eat your food, and not to mention, have that common ground.

Don’t let things build up. I know this is something that has to be constantly fought over inside my head. Not to be nagging, or like you critique everything they do. But it’s so much better to open the door to, “I really don’t like when you do….because….” instead of them continually doing it, building up frustration, and then eventually you explode (after all you’re only human) and then it turns into a way bigger deal than it needed to be.

If you have anything you do that you know helps our relationship! I’d love to hear, let me know! Or maybe if you try doing one of these things, and it totally works! I’d love to hear that as well.

~ XOXO, Amanda

 

FUR BABY: GATSBY

Why I Think I Got The Best Dog Ever

I’m starting to see a reoccurring theme on a lot of my posts having Gatsby in them, but I’ve also come to realize that I just can’t help it! He makes himself always noticed, and he can’t help that! He thinks he’s invisible and unless he’s touching you, you don’t know he’s there.

So here’s to Gatsby, and how I think I got the best dog ever. And what I did when he was a puppy to ensure that he would be the best, I’m not biased at all 😉

First and foremost: Training. I have to admit, I had NO IDEA what I was doing with a puppy. I think the training was more to train me on how to be a dog mom. But I made it my job! And of course Gatsby being so treat oriented helped my cause a lot. My biggest piece of advice with the training is to make sure everyone is on the same page. My parents helped me a lot with him, so I had to train them on what I was trained to do.

Also, (I lied I have another) stay consistent. For example, with walking, “sometimes” not being strict on him pulling, and sometimes it was okay. Would have taught him that he can test his boundaries.

People asked me why I was so insistent on training..well I knew if I put in the time and effort with him as a puppy, it would pay off as he got older. And it has, he listens so well, and knows his boundaries and what I expect from him.

Still after 3 years, I take him to training. He is right now in a canine good citizen (CGC) prep class. Keeping his body and brain active and hopefully becoming even better!

Next: Socialization. I took him everywhere I could, and still do. He met everything- people, animals, kids, you name it. He learned how to behave in crowds like farmers markets, and he learned how to be with kids, he sat there (most times rolled onto his belly) and let them poke his eyes, stick his fingers in his mouth, and yes, sometimes giving me puppy dog eyes to save him.

I think as a puppy this is really important because dogs are social like people (especially Goldens) and if you have a person in the house they become scared of things they don’t see/know.

Gatsby learned “Go say hi” meaning even though you are scared of it, trust me, it’s okay. Trash trucks was Gatsby’s biggest go say hi fear conqueror.

Third: I gave Gatsby my time. And I still do. Not only did I take him places, but I worked with him on his training, do things I know he loves like throwing the ball or wrestling. With time, you gain each other’s trust, and with that you have everything. I know in situations he trusts me to show him what to do, he comes and sits at my feet when he is unsure. I know how he will behave in situations as well, if a dog lunges or growls at him, I know he’ll do it right back.

Last but not least: Pick the right one. I knew I wanted a golden. They are SO beyond adorable (especially when they are fat puppies) and they are a great social dog. There are sooo many breeds out there, you have to do your research. And there are sooo many dogs in shelters that need homes (I got Gatsby from a breeder so I can’t really speak much to that). But I did look at shelters, and knowing I wanted a golden, I was told the goldens go to homes in 2o minutes because they are hardly ever turned in, and are so popular (wonder why).

STORYTIME: When I got Gatsby I like to say it was love at first lick, I knew I wanted a boy ’cause I already had the name. He was so fat and chubby. The breeder didn’t feed the pups that morning in case they were to get car sick on the way home.

So I saw Gatsby and would go pick him up and he would go right back to sitting by his food (not much has changed) but one time when I did that he didn’t, and licked me! I was like YES COME HOME WITH ME! And the rest is history.

I’m dying inside a little just reliving the cuteness, AH! 

Bottom line: If you are generous with your time and affection, your dog will see that and want to listen and please you. If you take the time to train your dog when they are young, and keep reinforcing the behaviors you want, they will remember them and will become second nature.

~ XOXO, Amanda & Gatsby

WEEK/END

The Ultimate Greeting Card Holiday

 

True confessions from the ultimate cheese ball:

Valentine’s day, single awareness day, greeting card holiday, galentine’s day, so many names for one holiday! The bitter single person, who will get blackout, the best friend galentines day, where nothing will come between you, and everything in between, I’ve been there, so today, I’ll be the cheesy girlfriend that I’m sure everyone knows I am.

#noshame but I hear all the “groans,” ‘this is just a holiday for greeting card companies, for chocolate companies’ and even if it is, so what…

Why is a day, a holiday, a bad thing when it’s a great excuse, and reason, to stop and sit back on how important your significant other is. I think we often get used to them being around, falling into a routine. Kissing them goodbye every morning, see you after work, eating dinner, and falling asleep. But there’s so much more to a relationship than that. And once you are in that routine, is it a relationship? or a companionship? Not that it should take a holiday to realize that, but hey, a wake up call isn’t always a bad thing.

One of (my many) favorite quotes is “The adults will tell you to stop looking for the spark. To settle for the stability and companionship. But I don’t think I can sit next to someone on the dinner table for the rest of my life talking only about my day. There needs to be unsaid communication. The sarcasm that doesn’t go unnoticed. The teasing that doesn’t stop. That good chemistry that you can’t find from just a good resume.”

And how true is that! BAM. I love finding the romance in our everyday life, do I get so annoyed with my boyfriend that I can’t even deal? Of course. Do I give him too much sass and attitude sometimes? I’m sure (whoops). But when it comes down to it, at the end of the day, his feet better be touching mine under the covers.

I think a lot of people forget how easy it is, real romance. It’s more than recognizing a holiday, I like to think it’s to make every day special.  Anyone can buy jewelry, a card, chocolate. But everyday those little things, going out of your way to make them happy. My favorite thing my boyfriend does, is to feed my ginger obsessed self. He’ll give me his ginger from his poke, yes to you it probably doesn’t sound like much, and it isn’t. But it’s my favorite thing (almost) in the world.

I think true romance is in the gestures. The I miss you, when you know you’ll see them later. The middle of the day I love you texts. So yes, if it’s a greeting card holiday, I don’t care. Why can’t the person you love get an extra day, of a little extra love? Here’s to other cheese balls like me, who want to be in love, to stay in love, and to forever be the cheesy you in love crazy kids we are today. Plus who doesn’t love a reason to eat 5,000 chocolate covered strawberries and make your dog pose for cute necessary photos.